A good friend reminded me recently of the importance of getting our needs met; SO much of self awareness (and self love!) is being attuned to our own needs. And SO much of authenticity is the honest communication of those needs to others. When we neglect our inner needs, they start coming out sideways. Instead of asking for what we want, we may lie or sneak around in an attempt to get it—when really just an honest and candid conversation would get the job done, without the guilt and ickiness of being deceitful (or having snuck and eaten three chocolate bars–a perfect example of sideways behaviour!). We may neglect our needs because deep down we believe they are not important and that other people’s needs are more important than our own. Perhaps we are afraid of disappointing others and not being liked and so we “Yes” our way through circumstances that don’t feel right for us (hello, people pleaser!). We might be in a situation where we feel obligated or responsible for one reason or another. Or maybe we are overtired and underslept and we don’t have the where-with-all to discern what we need. OR maybe we’ve been overriding our own needs for so long that we aren’t even sure what they are any more. Whatever the reason we are not expressing our needs, the important part is to recognize the disconnect, call ourselves out on our sideways behaviour, and go within to see what’s going on in the kitchen.
The same friend (mentioned above) called me out on something that made me stop and take stock of my needs– and it also made me realize that things don’t need to be so complicated; it’s only when we aren’t true to ourselves that things become complicated. More times than not, the truth is simple, and it often goes hand in hand with what we need. If you find yourself in the thick of drama and confusion, that’s a pretty good indicator that you aren’t looking out for your needs. With practice, we can pre-empt sideways behaviour and the drama that follows by learning to recognize when our needs aren’t being met. If you find yourself with a heavy dread-filled feeling in your chest or stomach when confronted with a choice or situation, or if you feel yourself slipping into sideways thinking, call it like it is and get to the root of it: “what am I needing that I’m not giving to myself?” Follow that up with “what would happen if I was upfront about what that was to those concerned?” Chances are, the answer to the first question will elicit a feeling of lightness in your body and the deliberation of the second question will breathe relief into your being. Both questions will reinforce that your needs are important and require no justification. Assessing our needs is a constant process, yet one that will help us live a life that we feel good about. Boom!
This soup gets needs met fast. We all know what this soup is about, and we can tell just by looking at it that this soup delivers. And it does, one delicious, flavourful, mouthful at a time. Did I mention it’s so EASY and takes hardly any time at all!???
Cheeze Pleeze Broccoli Soup
4 cups washed broccoli, stalks included-chopped or broken up
1 onion, chopped
1 clove of garlic, minced
1 tbsp olive oil
2 medium red potatoes, chopped
1 carrot, chopped
4 cups veggie stock
salt and peps to taste
1/2 cup nutritional yeast
1/2 cup Daiya Jack Shreds plus more for serving
In a large pot, sauté onion and garlic in olive oil over medium heat for 3-4 minutes or longer (without burning). Add broccoli, potatoes, carrots, and veggie stock. Bring to a boil, cover and simmer for 15 minutes or so. Add the nutritional yeast and purée using a blender (in batches) or using an immersion blender. Season with salt and pepper. Stir in the Daiya while the soup is still hot. Serve in generous portions in your most beautiful bowls with a sprinkling of Daiya to finish the job.