Are you that person sitting in the back seat of your life while your binge behaviour reigns free on the highway? One of the reasons why binge eating fills us with despair is that we feel powerless in the face of it. Not only to do we feel like we don’t have control, but we don’t think we CAN have control. It’s like being in a small rickety wooden boat with no oars in the throes of a storm; survival is our prime concern as we are pummelled about, trying frantically to bail out the water in between gripping the sides of the boat to brace for the next wave.
We may feel completely at the mercy of our binges, not knowing when or where they might strike, or, conversely, knowing exactly when they will and not knowing (or wanting) an alternative to that outcome; let’s face it—binging serves a purpose, does it not? Be it to comfort and soothe, to numb, to perpetuate a guilt/shame cycle, to reinforce feelings of low self worth—a binge can check all of these boxes for us. In an attempt to regain a sense of control, we may starve ourselves or commit to a rigid way of eating like a diet, only to find ourselves in binge mode by night time. I lived like this for years, and let me tell you, it’s a full time job. Just like being in that wooden boat, in the thick of binge behaviour it is all about survival.
Every so often we need a little reminder that the binge is not the one in the driver’s seat. WE ARE. This idea may seem far from the truth of your experience, but I assure you that you do have a say! And it starts by saying YES to it all (the good and the bad) and then finding room within that yes to negotiate a different experience. In future posts, I will cover what stepping back into the driver’s seat actually looks like and some strategies that can help us get there. For now, I’ll leave you with a recipe that will, if nothing else, make your tummy shout “this is the shizzle!”
(inspired by Dreena Burton, Laura of Dharmamarket fame, and all things raw and round)
These little guys are perfect for breakfast on the go, or a mid-morning snack. Or any time really. They are, quite simply, perfect!
- 1 ripe-ish banana
- 4-5 soft mejdool dates
- 1 tbsp coconut butter (manna)
- ½ cup finely shredded dried coconut + ¼ cup for coating
- ¼ cup oats
- ¼ tsp sea salt
- 1 heaping tbsp. ground flax
- 1 heaping tbsp. chia seeds
- 1/3 cup dark vegan chocolate chips
Whiz the banana and dates together in your trusty food processor until smooth. Add the remaining ingredients (except for the chippers) and process. Add the chips and pulse through. The dough will be quite moist. Take in your hands and shape into balls. Place the remaining coconut in a small bowl, and roll the balls to coat. Place on a parchment or silipat-lined tray and refrigerate to set. These can be stored in the freezer for a few weeks, or 3-5 days in the fridge. YUMMM!