Sooo…where were we? Oh yes, that’s right. We left off talking about getting back in the driver’s seat with the binge behaviour. This week we are going to explore some strategies to do just that: How can we create an alternate outcome to the self-fulfilling binge prophecy?
One of the hardest sensations to overcome is the feeling of powerlessness we feel in the face of our binge behaviours. A good starting point is to realize that bingeing is a choice we make, and we can enact that realization by saying YES to the behaviour. “But I don’t want to binge” you’re thinking, “why would I say YES?” – well, have you ever heard that saying “what you resists persists?” – the binge cycle is fuelled by the shame we feel for doing what we think we “shouldn’t” be doing. When we are kind with ourselves and give ourselves permission to binge as a way of coping FOR NOW, we begin to remove the key factors that perpetuate our cycle and it becomes our choice again. (Our self care method of choice, that is – read on.)
Another way of thinking about this is to approach the behaviour (i.e., YOU) with love and tenderness. Try substituting the thought “I’m going to go home and binge tonight” with “I’m feeling really tender and I’m going to honour that tonight” and see what other possibilities that simple shift opens up in you: can you approach the same underlying anxiety in a completely different way? Our “yes,” our acknowledgement of our desire to binge, honours that the behaviour is serving a role for us (self soothing) and plants the seed that we DO have a choice. Part two of this opens up the space for us to really address what is underlying the urge to binge and reminds us to be gentle in however we choose to be with those feelings.
Say yes to where you are at, binges and all. The simple shift of choosing to see your binges as a call for tenderness as opposed to your demise can put YOU back in the driver’s seat. If the urge to binge is there, just say OKAY. Acknowledge it. And make the connection each and every time that a binge = I am feeling tender = this is call for self love and tenderness (and if I binge that is okay!). Try it out. More strategies to come!Spinach artichoke dip anyone? I must admit, I have tried a couple of different recipes for spinach artichoke dip, and they all fell flat. None were able to deliver the warm, rich, creamy and delicious dip that shows up at every potluck– until SOMEONE (ahem, Lisa) was invited to the party! With a renewed faith that a vegan version of this classic dip was possible, I took her base recipe and ran with it. My variation uses avocado (nature’s butter, huh? Huh!?) for creaminess instead of veganaise and/or tofu. This number will have you wiping up drool off the floor.
Creamy Baked Spinach Artichoke Dip
- ½ avocado
- ½ cup veggie stock
- 1 clove garlic
- ¼ white onion
- Squeeze of lemon juice
- ½ cup daiya mozzarella
- 1 can artichoke hearts
- 3 cups fresh spinach
- Pepper to taste (you can add salt, but the stock and cheese provided enough saltiness for me).
Blend or food process everything together except the cheese, artichokes and spinach. Once creamy, pulse the spinach and artichokes through so that they are still chunky. Then add the cheese and pulse until just mixed. Bake at 350 F for 25 minutes.